Meeting Expectations

This is going to come across a bit rant-y, and that’s because it is. This was inspired by recent events but is not exclusively in reference to them.

When content creators (bloggers, vloggers, etc. for whom such creation is what pays their bills)…

  • fail to meet the expectations that they set for their readership, viewership, subscribers – whoever consumes their content
    Maybe they stopped publishing consistently. Maybe they are heavily deviating from their schedule. Maybe they promised content by X time and didn’t deliver.
  • subsequently make (shoddy) excuses for not doing so
    Especially when a pattern of not meeting expectations develops
  • get upset and play victim when someone (gently) questions the excuse
    Such as perhaps claiming a thing happened or did not happen (when that is not necessarily true), but that thing is readily available, public information.

…it vexes me.

As a part of that consumer base, do I feel personally insulted or cheated? No, but I do think it is lame to make a pattern of failing to meet the commitments you set for yourself for, you know, doing your job. Acting like a victim and getting defensive is never professional.

So, before I continue, let me explain what this is not. It is not:

  • Saying people cannot have lives or adjust their publishing schedules or expectations.
    If you need to adjust those expectations, do it! If you published content twice a week but could only manage three times per month simply state that due to your workload, this is what will be going on for the foreseeable future. You can share the reason if you wish to, but you don’t have to. We all have busier or more-stressful seasons of life!
  • Applicable to those who have other careers. If your blog is a hobby, side- or passion-project, yeah; other things come first. The job that keeps a roof over your head and its workload, your health, etc. come first.

Moving on – then, when fans go, “Wait, the reasoning you (voluntarily) provided doesn’t quite add up, am I misunderstanding?” Others defend these individuals say, “They don’t owe you anything! You aren’t paying them!”

Au contraire.

Allow me to cure you of your naïveté.

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The Lawsuit Against EOS is Stupid

lawsuit against eos

In case you hadn’t heard, there’s a lawsuit against EOS. Ahh – a fine example of our modern, overly litigious society. I was starting to worry; I hadn’t heard anything along the lines of restaurants being sued because they served hot coffee in a while. The lawsuit details what seems to me to be an allergic reaction. So, naturally, instead of simply going, “Damn, that really sucks, I was excited to try that product, it’s a shame it won’t work out for me,” and throwing it away…what does the plaintiff do? Sue!

Yes, the reaction was unfortunate. As it turns out, it seems like some other people have reactions, too. Also unfortunate. Wait, what?! You mean it’s possible for more than one person to have the same type of allergy? Get off my internet!

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Chatter: Stay Hydrated in Winter, Too

I used to think all the conventional advice about staying hydrated, in a general sense, was nonsense. I used to hate to drink water on its own (“It’s booooring!”) and would basically avoid it at all costs in favor of sugary drinks. Eventually, I kicked that (because everything in moderation), but was still skeptical about the whole eight, 8 ounce glasses of water per day thing.

I’m still not sure about 64 ounces per day, but there is a marked difference between how I feel when I’m making an effort to stay hydrated versus when I’m lazy about making sure I drink enough.

My skin looks better, brighter, more supple. I physically feel better.

It’s a night-and-day difference. If I can make my skin look good and my body feel good just by drinking half of what is recommended, why shouldn’t I? Why shouldn’t you?

The tapwater in my home is not ideal for drinking (I’m not a snob – we just happen to live at the literal end of the line for our municipality, so we end up with a lot of ick in our water). For a while, we were spending WAY too much on bottled water, and Brita or PUR faucet filters or pitchers weren’t a great option for us with how fast we’d go through the filters. Eventually, we got a water cooler that has both heating and cooling (but both can be turned off if you wish to save energy).

For me, making water that didn’t suck readily available makes it far easier to stay hydrated. Making it easy was, and remains, key to success for me. I have a great Contigo Grace water bottle (I mentioned it in a Favorites, even) to tote around with me. We have this wonderful Primula infusion pitcher so that I can flavor water with fruit without having to make it crazy sweet – it’s a nice way to change it up (and is great for infused teas and adult beverages, too).

Anyway, what I’m getting at ultimately is that in Winter we can frequently forget to, figuratively and literally, water ourselves. We might feel we aren’t exerting ourselves as much (but that isn’t necessarily true, especially if you have to shovel snow!), so maybe it doesn’t cross our mind. We’re drinking other tasty things to warm us up – hot ciders, hot chocolate, libations. If you avoid water in winter because it’s cold, listen: no one said your water has to be cold. The refrigeration on my water cooler is shut off more months of the year than it is turned on because I prefer room-temperature water anyway (and it’s easier on your system to process).

This winter, and always, be sure you stay hydrated.

Water isn’t only for when you’re feeling too warm or overexerted. The absence of flavor doesn’t have to be a bad thing – and if you can’t get past it, there are infuser pitchers and bottles to help you.

Use Your FSA for Sunscreen!

Use your FSA for Sunscreen before year-end!
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For many of us with HSA or FSA accounts, December 31 marks the, “use it or lose it,” deadline. If you don’t need an eye exam or new glasses, what do you spend those funds on? Here’s an idea: use your FSA for Sunscreen!


…that HSA and FSA dollars can, in most cases, be spent on sunscreen?

You’ll want to verify with your plan provider, of course, but yes – this is a viable option. If you have an FSA card, you can order FSA-eligible items directly with it (like from; otherwise you will have to check for your reimbursement process.

What better way to stock up on sunscreen for 2016? Most varieties are covered – sprays, traditional lotions, sticks, what-have-you. You may not be able to convince them to cover Coola or Supergoop (but I don’t know for sure that you can’t, either), but still.


PSA: Palettes

Friends, Romans, countrymen, lend me your ears:

There’s an epidemic, you see. I’ve kept my response contained as best I can, but I’m fighting the urge to go all Katie Holmes-in-The Giver, being a shrieking harpy about

precisionoflanguagePRECISION. OF. LANGUAGE.

But I’m not Jonah’s mom, and we aren’t in some dystopian, baby-murdering (spoilers, not sorry, the book is old) society, and I prefer to teach than scold.


This is a pallet.

is a pallet.

For the sake of argument, here’s a definition.

a portable platform on which goods can be moved, stacked, and stored, especially with the aid of a forklift.

You’ve probably seen one, right? Maybe you’ve (ever) been in a Lowes. Maybe you were at Wal-Mart late at night. Maybe you, yourself, have worked in a retail outfit and had to stock stuff. The only time this has anything to do with cosmetics is perhaps when Sephora receives a shipment; when there is a pallet of palettes.

Moving on,


Naked2 Basics Palette

is a palette.

When people say things like, “that’s a really nice pallet,” when talking about, say, Lorac PRO or a Viseart, the image that fills my mind is an expertly crafted, robust shipping platform. Maybe it’s even sanded, stained, and lacquered in gold. I deeply regret being a crappy artist because I would love to illustrate the image that fills my mind like Hyperbole and a Half brought us the Alot…but alas.

Anyway, I digress. This has been a Public Service Announcement. You now have the vocabulary tools to stop being that guy.